V ka\u017edodenn\u00edm \u017eivot\u011b se na n\u00e1s val\u00ed mno\u017estv\u00ed po\u017eadavk\u016f \u2013 kolegov\u00e9 pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pomoc s projektem, p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9 zvou na akce, rodina o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1 zapojen\u00ed. \u010casto se boj\u00edme odm\u00edtnout, proto\u017ee nechceme p\u016fsobit necitliv\u011b nebo nez\u00fa\u010dastn\u011bn\u011b. Jen\u017ee neust\u00e1l\u00e9 souhlasen\u00ed vede k p\u0159et\u00ed\u017een\u00ed, stresu a frustraci. \u0158\u00edkat \u201ene\u201c nen\u00ed v\u00fdrazem nez\u00e1jmu, ale naopak zp\u016fsobem, jak si chr\u00e1nit vlastn\u00ed kapacitu, zdrav\u00ed a \u010das. V tomto \u010dl\u00e1nku se pod\u00edv\u00e1me na konkr\u00e9tn\u00ed rady a techniky, kter\u00e9 v\u00e1m pomohou asertivn\u011b a bez v\u00fd\u010ditek odm\u00edtat to, co p\u0159esahuje va\u0161e mo\u017enosti.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Za\u010dni t\u00edm, \u017ee si ujasn\u00ed\u0161 sv\u00e9 priority<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne\u017e za\u010dne\u0161 tr\u00e9novat \u0159\u00edk\u00e1n\u00ed \u201ene\u201c, je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 v\u011bd\u011bt, \u010demu vlastn\u011b chce\u0161 \u0159\u00edkat \u201eano\u201c. Zn\u00ed to jako banalita, ale pr\u00e1v\u011b jasn\u00e9 priority jsou kl\u00ed\u010dem k rozhodov\u00e1n\u00ed. Pokud si uv\u011bdom\u00ed\u0161, co je pro tebe d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 \u2013 a\u0165 u\u017e je to \u010das s rodinou, pr\u00e1ce na osobn\u00edm projektu, odpo\u010dinek nebo vzd\u011bl\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 mnohem sn\u00e1z pozn\u00e1\u0161, kdy t\u011b nov\u00fd po\u017eadavek odv\u00e1d\u00ed od toho podstatn\u00e9ho. Ud\u011blej si seznam sv\u00fdch aktu\u00e1ln\u00edch priorit a klidn\u011b si ho n\u011bkam napi\u0161. Bude ti slou\u017eit jako kompas v ka\u017edodenn\u00edm rozhodov\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Odm\u00edtnut\u00ed nemus\u00ed b\u00fdt tvrd\u00e9 ani nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mnoho lid\u00ed m\u00e1 probl\u00e9m \u0159\u00edkat \u201ene\u201c, proto\u017ee si pod t\u00edm p\u0159edstavuj\u00ed ostr\u00e9 nebo nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9 odm\u00edtnut\u00ed. Jen\u017ee \u201ene\u201c m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt vyj\u00e1d\u0159eno i s respektem a empati\u00ed. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1 pou\u017e\u00edt tzv. sendvi\u010dovou metodu \u2013 za\u010d\u00edt uzn\u00e1n\u00edm nebo pochopen\u00edm, pak jasn\u011b \u0159\u00edct \u201ene\u201c a nakonec p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b nab\u00eddnout alternativu. Nap\u0159\u00edklad: \u201eV\u00e1\u017e\u00edm si toho, \u017ee ses na m\u011b obr\u00e1til, ale te\u010f na to opravdu nem\u00e1m kapacitu. Kdybych n\u011bco podobn\u00e9ho pl\u00e1noval v budoucnu, r\u00e1d se ozvu.\u201c<\/em> Takov\u00e9 odm\u00edtnut\u00ed je srozumiteln\u00e9, zdvo\u0159il\u00e9, a p\u0159itom jasn\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nau\u010d se zvl\u00e1dat tlak a manipulaci<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u011bkdy naraz\u00edme na lidi, kte\u0159\u00ed na\u0161e \u201ene\u201c nerespektuj\u00ed. Za\u010dnou tla\u010dit, p\u0159ipom\u00ednat minulou pomoc, nebo v n\u00e1s vyvol\u00e1vat pocit viny. V takov\u00fdch chv\u00edl\u00edch je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 z\u016fstat pevn\u00fd. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1 opakovat sv\u00e9 stanovisko beze zm\u011bny, i kdy\u017e je to nep\u0159\u00edjemn\u00e9. Tzv. technika \u201epo\u0161kr\u00e1ban\u00e9 desky\u201c spo\u010d\u00edv\u00e1 v klidn\u00e9m opakov\u00e1n\u00ed stejn\u00e9 v\u011bty \u2013 nap\u0159\u00edklad: \u201eRozum\u00edm, ale st\u00e1le to nen\u00ed mo\u017en\u00e9.\u201c<\/em> Nezapom\u00ednej, \u017ee zdrav\u00e9 hranice nejsou o tom druh\u00e9 trestat, ale o tom, chr\u00e1nit s\u00e1m sebe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tr\u00e9nuj v bezpe\u010dn\u00e9m prost\u0159ed\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0158\u00edkat \u201ene\u201c se \u010dlov\u011bk nenau\u010d\u00ed p\u0159es noc. Pokud m\u00e1\u0161 pocit, \u017ee ti to nejde, zkus si odm\u00edtnut\u00ed nane\u010disto. M\u016f\u017ee\u0161 si nacvi\u010dit modelov\u00e9 situace s bl\u00edzk\u00fdm \u010dlov\u011bkem, nebo si v duchu p\u0159ehr\u00e1vat, co bys \u0159ekl v ur\u010dit\u00e9 situaci. Za\u010dni v m\u00e9n\u011b n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00fdch situac\u00edch \u2013 nap\u0159\u00edklad odm\u00edtnout let\u00e1k na ulici, \u0159\u00edct \u201ene\u201c p\u0159i nab\u00edzen\u00ed ochutn\u00e1vky v obchod\u011b, nebo zru\u0161it \u00fa\u010dast na sch\u016fzce, kter\u00e1 ti nevyhovuje. Postupn\u011b z\u00edsk\u00e1\u0161 v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed jistotu a tvoje \u201ene\u201c se stane p\u0159irozenou sou\u010d\u00e1st\u00ed komunikace.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Co d\u011blat, kdy\u017e t\u011b po odm\u00edtnut\u00ed tr\u00e1p\u00ed v\u00fd\u010ditky<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n N\u011bkdy se i po spr\u00e1vn\u011b formulovan\u00e9m \u201ene\u201c dostav\u00ed pocit viny. To je b\u011b\u017en\u00e9, zvl\u00e1\u0161\u0165 pokud jsi byl zvykl\u00fd v\u017edy vyhov\u011bt. Pom\u00e1h\u00e1 p\u0159ipomenout si, pro\u010d jsi odm\u00edtl \u2013 jak\u00fd \u010das, energii nebo du\u0161evn\u00ed klid sis t\u00edm zachr\u00e1nil. M\u016f\u017ee\u0161 si v\u00e9st mal\u00fd den\u00edk, kam si bude\u0161 ps\u00e1t situace, kdy ses rozhodl pro sebe, a jak\u00fd to m\u011blo v\u00fdsledek. Tak si uv\u011bdom\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee tvoje rozhodnut\u00ed maj\u00ed pozitivn\u00ed dopad nejen na tebe, ale i na kvalitu tv\u00fdch vztah\u016f \u2013 proto\u017ee b\u00fdt up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd je v\u017edy lep\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e souhlasit s n\u011b\u010d\u00edm, co ve skute\u010dnosti nechce\u0161.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zdrav\u00e9 \u201ene\u201c otev\u00edr\u00e1 prostor pro v\u011bdom\u00e9 \u201eano\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Nakonec je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 si uv\u011bdomit, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00e9 \u201ene\u201c v\u016f\u010di n\u011b\u010demu znamen\u00e1 \u201eano\u201c v\u016f\u010di n\u011b\u010demu jin\u00e9mu. Kdy\u017e odm\u00edtne\u0161 dal\u0161\u00ed \u00fakol nav\u00edc, \u0159\u00edk\u00e1\u0161 \u201eano\u201c sv\u00e9mu odpo\u010dinku, soust\u0159ed\u011bn\u00ed nebo \u010dasu s bl\u00edzk\u00fdmi. Um\u011bn\u00ed \u0159\u00edkat \u201ene\u201c nen\u00ed dovednost pro introverty nebo asoci\u00e1ly \u2013 je to n\u00e1stroj, jak \u017e\u00edt \u017eivot v\u00edc podle sebe. A ten, kdo se nau\u010d\u00ed odm\u00edtat, z\u00edsk\u00e1v\u00e1 n\u011bco mnohem cenn\u011bj\u0161\u00edho: svobodu, klid a prostor pro to, co m\u00e1 skute\u010dn\u00fd smysl.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" V ka\u017edodenn\u00edm \u017eivot\u011b se na n\u00e1s val\u00ed mno\u017estv\u00ed po\u017eadavk\u016f \u2013 kolegov\u00e9 pot\u0159ebuj\u00ed pomoc s projektem, p\u0159\u00e1tel\u00e9 zvou na akce, rodina o\u010dek\u00e1v\u00e1 zapojen\u00ed. \u010casto se boj\u00edme odm\u00edtnout, proto\u017ee nechceme p\u016fsobit necitliv\u011b…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":989,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-988","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-rady-a-navody"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/988","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=988"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/988\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/989"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=988"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=988"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=988"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}