Mnoho lid\u00ed dnes \u017eije pod neust\u00e1l\u00fdm vnit\u0159n\u00edm tlakem b\u00fdt \u201elep\u0161\u00ed verz\u00ed sebe sama\u201c. A\u010dkoli touha po osobn\u00edm rozvoji nen\u00ed sama o sob\u011b \u0161patn\u00e1, \u010dasto sklouz\u00e1v\u00e1me k p\u0159\u00edli\u0161n\u00e9mu sebehodnocen\u00ed, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1m m\u00edsto pomoci sp\u00ed\u0161e ubli\u017euje. Nejde jen o ob\u010dasnou sebekritiku \u2013 mluv\u00edme o t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 nep\u0159etr\u017eit\u00e9m vnit\u0159n\u00edm monologu, kter\u00fd rozeb\u00edr\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00e9 rozhodnut\u00ed, ka\u017edou chybu a ka\u017edou nedokonalost. Tento stav m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt vy\u010derp\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed a br\u00e1nit n\u00e1m v tom, abychom si u\u017e\u00edvali oby\u010dejn\u00e9 v\u011bci. Co tedy s t\u00edm?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Rozpozn\u00e1n\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u00edho \u201eauditora\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Prvn\u00edm krokem k tomu, jak se p\u0159estat neust\u00e1le analyzovat a kritizovat, je uv\u011bdomit si, \u017ee takov\u00fd vnit\u0159n\u00ed hlas v\u016fbec existuje. Tento \u201eauditor\u201c m\u00e1 \u010dasto podobu my\u0161lenek typu: \u201eTo jsi mohla \u0159\u00edct l\u00e9pe\u201c, \u201ePro\u010d jsi to ud\u011blal tak hloup\u011b?\u201c nebo \u201eZase ses ztrapnila\u201c. Kdy\u017e za\u010dnete tyto my\u0161lenky v\u011bdom\u011b zachyt\u00e1vat, v\u0161imnete si, jak \u010dasto se opakuj\u00ed. N\u011bkdy vych\u00e1zej\u00ed z minul\u00fdch zku\u0161enost\u00ed, jindy jsou jen v\u00fdrazem strachu, \u017ee nejsme dost dob\u0159\u00ed. Pozorov\u00e1n\u00ed bez odsuzov\u00e1n\u00ed je kl\u00ed\u010d \u2013 jde o to my\u0161lenky zaznamenat, ne s nimi bojovat.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159er\u00e1mov\u00e1n\u00ed my\u0161lenek<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jakmile si uv\u011bdom\u00edte, \u017ee se p\u0159ehnan\u011b hodnot\u00edte, m\u016f\u017eete s t\u00edm za\u010d\u00edt pracovat. Jedn\u00edm z efektivn\u00edch n\u00e1stroj\u016f je tzv. p\u0159er\u00e1mov\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 tedy nahrazen\u00ed \u0161kodliv\u00e9 my\u0161lenky jej\u00ed laskav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed verz\u00ed. M\u00edsto \u201eZase jsem to pokazil\u201c si m\u016f\u017eete \u0159\u00edct \u201eU\u010d\u00edm se, nen\u00ed nutn\u00e9 b\u00fdt dokonal\u00fd\u201c. Tento p\u0159\u00edstup neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee si l\u017eete do kapsy. Jde o realistick\u00fd a konstruktivn\u00ed pohled, kter\u00fd m\u00edsto demotivace posiluje. A i kdy\u017e se v\u00e1m to ze za\u010d\u00e1tku m\u016f\u017ee zd\u00e1t nep\u0159irozen\u00e9, mozek si na nov\u00fd zp\u016fsob my\u0161len\u00ed \u010dasem zvykne.<\/p>\n\n\n\n V\u0161\u00edmejte si drobn\u00fdch \u00fasp\u011bch\u016f<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Lid\u00e9 s tendenc\u00ed se p\u0159ehnan\u011b hodnotit \u010dasto podce\u0148uj\u00ed sv\u00e9 \u00fasp\u011bchy. Mal\u00e9 v\u00edt\u011bzstv\u00ed \u2013 t\u0159eba zvl\u00e1dnut\u00fd n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u00fd rozhovor nebo den bez v\u00fd\u010ditek \u2013 berou jako samoz\u0159ejmost, zat\u00edmco chyby si p\u0159ehr\u00e1vaj\u00ed dokola. V\u011bdom\u00e9 zaznamen\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed pozitivn\u00edch moment\u016f pom\u00e1h\u00e1 vyv\u00e1\u017eit jednostrann\u00e9 vn\u00edm\u00e1n\u00ed sebe sama. Vyzkou\u0161ejte si ka\u017ed\u00fd ve\u010der napsat t\u0159i v\u011bci, kter\u00e9 se v\u00e1m b\u011bhem dne povedly. A nemus\u00ed to b\u00fdt nic velk\u00e9ho \u2013 i to, \u017ee jste si odpo\u010dinuli bez v\u00fd\u010ditek, je hodn\u00e9 zaznamen\u00e1n\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Uvoln\u011bte prostor pro spont\u00e1nnost<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ehnan\u00e1 sebekontrola m\u016f\u017ee dusit na\u0161i kreativitu a radost ze \u017eivota. Kdy\u017e m\u00e1te tendenci v\u0161e analyzovat, p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00edte o kouzlo okam\u017eiku. Zkuste si b\u011bhem dne v\u011bdom\u011b dop\u0159\u00e1t chv\u00edli bez hodnocen\u00ed \u2013 a\u0165 u\u017e jde o tanec na obl\u00edbenou p\u00edsni\u010dku, kreslen\u00ed bez c\u00edle nebo konverzaci bez pot\u0159eby \u201ezaz\u00e1\u0159it\u201c. Spont\u00e1nn\u00ed \u010dinnosti v\u00e1m pomohou obnovit kontakt s vlastn\u00ed p\u0159irozenost\u00ed, a t\u00edm i se sebed\u016fv\u011brou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ehodno\u0165te pojem \u201edost dobr\u00fd\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Spole\u010dnost n\u00e1s \u010dasto u\u010d\u00ed, \u017ee mus\u00edme \u201en\u011b\u010d\u00edm b\u00fdt\u201c a \u201en\u011b\u010deho dos\u00e1hnout\u201c, abychom m\u011bli hodnotu. Tento tlak vede k pocitu, \u017ee mus\u00edme st\u00e1le dokazovat svou dostate\u010dnost. Co kdyby ale \u201edost dobr\u00fd\u201c nebyla kone\u010dn\u00e1 meta, ale v\u00fdchoz\u00ed bod? Pokud se rozhodnete, \u017ee m\u00e1te hodnotu u\u017e te\u010f \u2013 se v\u0161emi nedokonalostmi \u2013 vytvo\u0159\u00edte si pevn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed z\u00e1klad, ze kter\u00e9ho se d\u00e1 r\u016fst s v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed lehkost\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kdy\u017e je pot\u0159eba vyhledat podporu<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n P\u0159ehnan\u00e9 sebehodnocen\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee n\u011bkdy souviset s hlub\u0161\u00edmi psychick\u00fdmi obt\u00ed\u017eemi, jako je \u00fazkost nebo perfekcionismus. Pokud m\u00e1te pocit, \u017ee v\u00e1s tyto my\u0161lenky ovl\u00e1daj\u00ed natolik, \u017ee v\u00e1m br\u00e1n\u00ed v b\u011b\u017en\u00e9m fungov\u00e1n\u00ed nebo ve vztaz\u00edch, nen\u00ed ostuda vyhledat odbornou pomoc. Psychoterapie v\u00e1m m\u016f\u017ee pomoci l\u00e9pe pochopit, odkud se v\u00e1\u0161 vnit\u0159n\u00ed kritik bere, a jak s n\u00edm zach\u00e1zet zdrav\u011bji.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Z\u00e1v\u011brem: \u017divot nen\u00ed test<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u017d\u00edt s pocitem, \u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd v\u00e1\u0161 krok je pod drobnohledem, je unavuj\u00edc\u00ed. Pravda je ale takov\u00e1, \u017ee v\u011bt\u0161ina lid\u00ed je p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 zam\u011bstnan\u00e1 sv\u00fdm vlastn\u00edm \u017eivotem na to, aby v\u00e1s hodnotila tak p\u0159\u00edsn\u011b, jak to d\u011bl\u00e1te vy sami. Nau\u010dit se b\u00fdt k sob\u011b laskav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed neznamen\u00e1 rezignovat na snahu nebo c\u00edle \u2013 znamen\u00e1 to d\u00e1t si prostor r\u016fst v p\u0159irozen\u00e9m tempu, bez vnit\u0159n\u00edho bi\u010de. Proto a\u017e p\u0159\u00ed\u0161t\u011b usly\u0161\u00edte ten zn\u00e1m\u00fd hlas kritika, zkuste ho jen pozdravit a pokra\u010dovat d\u00e1l. \u017divot toti\u017e nen\u00ed test \u2013 je to cesta.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Mnoho lid\u00ed dnes \u017eije pod neust\u00e1l\u00fdm vnit\u0159n\u00edm tlakem b\u00fdt \u201elep\u0161\u00ed verz\u00ed sebe sama\u201c. A\u010dkoli touha po osobn\u00edm rozvoji nen\u00ed sama o sob\u011b \u0161patn\u00e1, \u010dasto sklouz\u00e1v\u00e1me k p\u0159\u00edli\u0161n\u00e9mu sebehodnocen\u00ed, kter\u00e9 n\u00e1m…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":974,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-973","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-rady-a-navody"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/973","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=973"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/973\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/974"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=973"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=973"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/3cz.cz\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=973"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}