V \u010desk\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti se pomalu, ale jist\u011b prom\u011b\u0148uje profil dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota. Dlouholet\u00fd stereotyp \u2013 \u0161kola, pr\u00e1ce, svatba, d\u011bti \u2013 p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 b\u00fdt univerz\u00e1ln\u00edm sc\u00e9n\u00e1\u0159em. Zat\u00edmco n\u011bkter\u00e9 zm\u011bny p\u0159ich\u00e1z\u00ed nen\u00e1padn\u011b, jin\u00e9 vzbuzuj\u00ed siln\u00e9 reakce. Mezi ty druh\u00e9 rozhodn\u011b pat\u0159\u00ed nar\u016fstaj\u00edc\u00ed po\u010det lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed se v\u011bdom\u011b rozhoduj\u00ed pro \u017eivot bez d\u011bt\u00ed. Nejde o neplodnost ani o odklad kv\u016fli kari\u00e9\u0159e \u2013 mluv\u00edme o volb\u011b, kter\u00e1 \u0159\u00edk\u00e1: \u201eNe, nechci m\u00edt d\u011bti. A nem\u00e1m pot\u0159ebu to m\u011bnit.\u201c Tento postoj v\u0161ak ve ve\u0159ejn\u00e9m prostoru st\u00e1le nar\u00e1\u017e\u00ed. Jsou tito lid\u00e9 sobe\u010dt\u00ed, nepochopen\u00ed, nebo prost\u011b jin\u00ed?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Volba, ne selh\u00e1n\u00ed<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n V \u010cesku je dnes podle statistik zhruba ka\u017ed\u00e1 p\u00e1t\u00e1 \u017eena kolem \u010dty\u0159ic\u00edtky bezd\u011btn\u00e1. A ne v\u0161echny z nich \u010dekaj\u00ed, \u017ee se to jednou \u201ezlom\u00ed\u201c. Podobn\u00fd trend lze sledovat i u mu\u017e\u016f. Tito lid\u00e9 nejsou nezodpov\u011bdn\u00ed ani chladn\u00ed. \u010casto jde o p\u0159em\u00fd\u0161liv\u00e9 osobnosti, kter\u00e9 si kladou ot\u00e1zky o smyslu rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed, ekologick\u00e9m dopadu p\u0159elidn\u011bn\u00ed, nebo o vlastn\u00ed schopnosti d\u00e1t d\u00edt\u011bti to, co by podle nich m\u011blo m\u00edt. Nen\u00ed to v\u017edy ot\u00e1zka pohodl\u00ed \u2013 n\u011bkdy sp\u00ed\u0161 hlubok\u00e9 reflexe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Navzdory tomu je jejich rozhodnut\u00ed \u010dasto dezinterpretov\u00e1no. V rodin\u011b b\u00fdvaj\u00ed konfrontov\u00e1ni s ot\u00e1zkami typu \u201eA kdo se o tebe postar\u00e1 na st\u00e1\u0159\u00ed?\u201c nebo s nevy\u017e\u00e1dan\u00fdmi diagn\u00f3zami jako \u201ety to jednou ur\u010dit\u011b p\u0159ehodnot\u00ed\u0161\u201c. Dosp\u011bl\u00ed bez d\u011bt\u00ed tak \u010dasto \u010del\u00ed tlaku, \u017ee jejich \u017eivotn\u00ed styl nen\u00ed plnohodnotn\u00fd \u2013 jako by d\u00edt\u011b bylo garantem hodnoty \u017eivota.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Svoboda s podm\u00ednkami<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jedn\u00edm z \u010dast\u00fdch argument\u016f proti bezd\u011btn\u00e9mu \u017eivotn\u00edmu stylu je \u00fadajn\u00e1 sobeckost. Ale co p\u0159esn\u011b je sobeck\u00e9? Rozhodnut\u00ed m\u00edt d\u011bti, i kdy\u017e na n\u011b nem\u00e1m \u010das ani prostor? Nebo rozhodnut\u00ed je nem\u00edt, pr\u00e1v\u011b proto, \u017ee v\u00edm, \u017ee bych to nezvl\u00e1dl dob\u0159e? Zast\u00e1nci bezd\u011btn\u00e9ho \u017eivota \u010dasto mluv\u00ed o svobod\u011b \u2013 mo\u017enosti \u0159\u00eddit si \u017eivot podle vlastn\u00edch priorit, mo\u017enost cestovat, m\u011bnit zam\u011bstn\u00e1n\u00ed, rozv\u00edjet se osobnostn\u011b i profesn\u011b bez p\u0159\u00edm\u00e9 zodpov\u011bdnosti za jin\u00fd \u017eivot.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Jen\u017ee ani tato svoboda nen\u00ed bez hranic. Spole\u010dnost m\u00e1 tendenci hodnotit \u201enorm\u00e1lnost\u201c \u017eivota podle p\u0159edem dan\u00fdch vzorc\u016f. Lid\u00e9 bez d\u011bt\u00ed nejsou obvykle c\u00edlovou skupinou v\u011bt\u0161iny kulturn\u00edch nebo rodinn\u00fdch aktivit, jsou nepsan\u011b vy\u0159azeni z konverzac\u00ed v pr\u00e1ci (\u201eTy tomu nerozum\u00ed\u0161, ty nem\u00e1\u0161 d\u011bti\u201c) nebo maj\u00ed omezen\u00e9 mo\u017enosti sd\u00edlen\u00ed \u017eivotn\u00edch miln\u00edk\u016f \u2013 proto\u017ee ty jejich jsou pro okol\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011b pochopiteln\u00e9.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Nov\u00e1 komunita, nov\u00fd jazyk<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Zaj\u00edmav\u00fdm fenom\u00e9nem posledn\u00edch let je vytv\u00e1\u0159en\u00ed komunit bezd\u011btn\u00fdch dosp\u011bl\u00fdch. Online i offline. Tato sdru\u017een\u00ed se nestav\u00ed proti rodi\u010dovstv\u00ed, ale buduj\u00ed prostor pro vz\u00e1jemn\u00e9 pochopen\u00ed lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed si zvolili jinou cestu. N\u011bkdy jde o podp\u016frn\u00e9 skupiny, jindy o p\u0159\u00e1telsk\u00e9 spolky sd\u00edlej\u00edc\u00ed podobn\u00e9 hodnoty. V t\u011bchto komunit\u00e1ch se rozv\u00edj\u00ed nov\u00fd jazyk \u2013 jazyk svobody bez pot\u0159eby obhajoby. T\u00e9ma se dost\u00e1v\u00e1 i do knih, podcast\u016f a debat, by\u0165 zat\u00edm opatrn\u011b.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zaj\u00edmav\u00fd je i vliv t\u00e9to skupiny na trh. Bezd\u011btn\u00ed \u010dast\u011bji investuj\u00ed do seberozvoje, vzd\u011bl\u00e1n\u00ed nebo z\u00e1\u017eitk\u016f, co\u017e m\u011bn\u00ed i nab\u00eddku slu\u017eeb. Od specializovan\u00fdch z\u00e1jezd\u016f p\u0159es osobn\u00ed coaching a\u017e po m\u011bstsk\u00e9 bydlen\u00ed bez d\u011btsk\u00fdch koutk\u016f \u2013 segment pro tzv. DINKs (Double Income, No Kids) u\u017e nen\u00ed okrajov\u00fd.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kam sm\u011b\u0159ujeme?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ot\u00e1zka bezd\u011btnosti se nutn\u011b dot\u00fdk\u00e1 i budoucnosti cel\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti. Co to znamen\u00e1 pro demografii? Pro d\u016fchodov\u00fd syst\u00e9m? Pro pojet\u00ed rodiny? Zat\u00edmco politici a sociologov\u00e9 tyto ot\u00e1zky \u0159e\u0161\u00ed sp\u00ed\u0161 z pozice \u010d\u00edsel, samotn\u00ed lid\u00e9 \u2013 na obou stran\u00e1ch barik\u00e1dy \u2013 si \u010dasto nesou emoce, strachy i nepochopen\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n T\u00e9ma \u017eivota bez d\u011bt\u00ed nen\u00ed o tom, kdo m\u00e1 pravdu. Nen\u00ed to sout\u011b\u017e mezi rodi\u010di a bezd\u011btn\u00fdmi. Je to d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd sign\u00e1l, \u017ee dosp\u011bl\u00fd \u017eivot m\u00e1 dnes mnoho podob. A \u017ee p\u0159estat automaticky o\u010dek\u00e1vat d\u011bti jako v\u00fdsledek ka\u017ed\u00e9ho vztahu nebo \u201espr\u00e1vn\u00e9ho\u201c v\u011bku m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt prvn\u00edm krokem k v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00e9 toleranci.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Z\u00e1v\u011brem<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u017divot bez d\u011bt\u00ed nen\u00ed m\u00e9n\u011bcenn\u00fd ani nedokon\u010den\u00fd. Je jen jin\u00fd. A stejn\u011b jako se spole\u010dnost musela nau\u010dit p\u0159ij\u00edmat rozvody, single \u017eivot nebo LGBTQ+ vztahy, bude si muset osvojit i nov\u00fd jazyk pro bezd\u011btnost. Ne jazyk l\u00edtosti, v\u00fd\u010ditek nebo p\u0159esv\u011bd\u010dov\u00e1n\u00ed \u2013 ale jazyk respektu. Proto\u017ee ka\u017ed\u00fd \u017eivotn\u00ed p\u0159\u00edb\u011bh, pokud je svobodn\u00fd a zodpov\u011bdn\u00fd, m\u00e1 svou hodnotu.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" V \u010desk\u00e9 spole\u010dnosti se pomalu, ale jist\u011b prom\u011b\u0148uje profil dosp\u011bl\u00e9ho \u017eivota. Dlouholet\u00fd stereotyp \u2013 \u0161kola, pr\u00e1ce, svatba, d\u011bti \u2013 p\u0159est\u00e1v\u00e1 b\u00fdt univerz\u00e1ln\u00edm sc\u00e9n\u00e1\u0159em. 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